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“Those who have not found their true wealth, which is the radiant joy of Being and the deep, unshakable peace that comes with it, are beggars, even if they have great material wealth. They are looking outside for scraps of pleasure or fulfillment, for validation, security, or love, while they have a treasure within that not only includes all those things but is infinitely greater than anything the world can offer,” said spiritual author Eckhart Tolle.
It seems as though many go through life wondering why they can’t find happiness or why bad things seem happen to them. I’ve realized that happiness isn’t a certain peak in one’s life or an acceptance of one’s shortcomings.
We make choices in life that either make us feel good or bad about ourselves. Every single decision or action in life will release a certain emotion.
People complain because they are unhappy, yet they make choices daily that would only cause depression. Some people say that only negative things are happening in their lives, yet they sit around feeling pity for themselves instead of doing something to change the shit hole they’re in.
It’s a bit annoying hearing people search for pity because they’ve had a “hard life.”
The truth is, if you pick apart any life or even an almost perfect situation, there will always be flaws present.
Therefore, if you twist any life, and highlight the negative aspects, anyone’s life could appear “hard.” What’s most important is to seek the positive in everything, even the not so great things.
There are life lessons we can learn in anything and everything if we let our minds be open to it.
We may meet people that treat us poorly, yet we still seek those exact people in the future.
However, it’s all avoidable if we remember characteristics of people who have in fact done us wrong. When we see those exact flaws in another, we should shy away from them.
Don’t naively pretend the mishap was unexpected because that’s absurd. People say, “OMG, I know my spouse treats me like shit, but I just love them.” Bad news bears, break up with them if you have any respect for yourself. Love yourself first and foremost.
Many seem to have a weird sense of comfort to people who only cause them harm, who are in a sense, their enemies. Clearly, if we’re in charge of who we surround ourselves with, the only person to blame is us. If you could choose from a wide variety of people, having their flaws and assets clearly written on their forehead, would you choose the people you surround yourself with now?
Why do people get distraught when another person doesn’t give them the time of day?
If another person doesn’t see that you are something special, then so be it. If you knew the chemistry was mutual, then they are the ones who lose. They were either scared, confused or whatever but don’t let it affect you.
In reality, we’re all fearful. Guys meet girls and fear rejection; girls meet guys and fear a broken heart or being played. But the truth is, we all fear. When we don’t take chances, our fear is overcoming us.
How many times in your life have you felt like things could never get better? Maybe it was a bad break up, a bad grade, a rude comment, a fight with family, friends or what have you; how significant is the experience a week later, a month later, or even a year?
It’s easy to get caught up in little stresses, but if you look at the situation from an outside perspective, you’ll see it much differently. Nothing is worth sacrificing the opportunity of happiness.
Waiting for something drastic to enhance your life will never be successful. If we wait, we lose sight that the real prize is life itself: its journey, its mishaps, its love, its beauty, its everything.
Go out of your way to do something for someone you appreciate to make their day better.
It’s unfortunate how people view kindness through skeptical eyes. It’s like damn; didn’t you know nice people are still around? Duh. So let go of the worries, and if people choose to be negative, realize it’s their loss. You are something special too. Life is too wonderful to worry.
My all time favorite poet Maya Angelou said, “I’ve learned that people will forget what you said, people will forget what you did, but people will never forget how you made them feel.”
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